Four quadrant dating
People with a dismissive style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with these statements: "I am comfortable without close emotional relationships", "It is important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient", and "I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me." People with this attachment style desire a high level of independence.
The desire for independence often appears as an attempt to avoid attachment altogether.
Compared with securely attached people, people who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to have less positive views about themselves.
They may feel a sense of anxiousness that only recedes when in contact with the attachment figure.
The secure attachment style in adults corresponds to the secure attachment style in children.
Securely attached people feel comfortable both with intimacy and with independence.
Secure attachment and adaptive functioning are promoted by a caregiver who is emotionally available and appropriately responsive to his or her child's attachment behavior, as well as capable of regulating both his or her positive and negative emotions.
Regardless of how one describes the core principles of attachment theory, the key insight is that the same principles of attachment apply to close relationships throughout the lifespan.
The principles of attachment between children and caregivers are fundamentally the same as the principles of attachment between adults.
Their descriptions seem quite different on a superficial level.