21 year old dating 28 year old
Given the opportunity, your friends and strangers will judge you for being out with somebody who is too fat, too thin, to short, too Asian, too a stripper, whatever.It is up to you to be mutually happy with the person you date." except for aging pageant queens and John Mellencamp. I know this because I once worked with a 42-year-old man who was skipping his daughter’s birthday because "she’ll have one every year, but you never know when they’re going to shut down Burning Man for good."True, another factor is judgment from other people, who may see a 44-year-old going to dinner with a 25-year-old and make judgments about which one of them is drowning in student loan debt.If only I could tell them how many broke, destitute middle-aged guys I’ve slept with, and challenge their ugly stereotypes.The only problem I’ve had with dating outside of my age range is when the other person has been too aware of it.Either he was self-conscious about dating a younger lady, or he tried to pay for everything because he thought I expected it.
I think that if you meet somebody you like and are attracted to, you meet somebody you like and are attracted to.I learned this from experience, but also from Ludacris.Like height or body type, age is one of those strange things about a person that we know they can’t help, but nevertheless handily use to write them off.And on the other hand, unless you’re going out with somebody she’s young, I don’t think it’s cause for judgment.Being predatory is just plain gross on either side of the equation, either from young people looking to trade sex for free Hulu Plus, or old people suffering conversation with somebody who I don’t have to tell you that the only people who get to decide whether you’re enjoying each other as people are you and your dinner companion.
This kind of culling is even easier now that dating sites let us whittle our options down to the year.